At times, being the only single person in your group of friends is like carrying a sign that says “single” around. It is an interesting experience, and even though you may sometimes feel uncomfortable and even laugh at points, some moments force you to think about your position in the world of love connections.
Whether all your friends are currently having boyfriends or girlfriends or even married, being single is never easy and comes with its fair share of benefits and drawbacks. But remember, if you are doing it right now, know that many others have gone through it or are going through it too. Here, we will discuss some pros and cons of being the odd man out and how to deal with it.
The Pressure to “Fix” Your Single Status
The most frequent complaint of those who find themselves as the only ‘single’ is that they will never ‘find anyone.’ This is further exacerbated by friends with partners who will aggressively try to fix you up, find someone they deem perfect for you, advise you on getting a partner, etc. It’s almost as if your singleness is a sickness, and they want to cure you. Who says you have to be dating or married at a certain time? No rule says so.
Your single state does not have to be seen as a problem. However much your friends may mean well, the pressure they give regarding relationships is sometimes overbearing. Embrace your independence. Just keep reminding yourself that it’s good not to be tied down. Doing your own thing, career, hobbies, and anything in between is more important than a man/woman.
The Lone Wolf at Couple Events
One of the things that comes with being the odd one out is going to couple-related events alone. It may be dinner parties, weddings, and vacations—it’s all about couples showing affection in different ways, and you will be the only ‘wolf’ trying to fend for yourself. It’s completely okay to feel uncomfortable when you feel left out while others are coupled with their significant others. But it is essential to go to such events with the right attitude.
You can get lost in being single, yet these events can be fulfilling. Watch how couples behave or communicate during their time together. Don’t do it and start sulking; instead, do it to see what you want in a relationship. Moreover, you are the only single friend. In this case, you can be the one who is always cracking jokes and bringing happiness to the group. Who else has the best dance moves or starts singing out of tune in the middle of the night at a concert?
Try New Things
Try going out and exploring new groups and events that offer confidence and belonging. Whether it is a baking club, a charity, or aerobics, interacting with people you don’t know well allows you to see being single from a different angle. It can also assist you in giving more attention to developing how you feel about yourself and where you are in life.
Take these chances to meet people who are probably as single as you are. This way, you can create new friendships based on that understanding. So go out and try new things. Enjoy the freedom that comes with being single. Take time to discover yourself and find out who you are. There is nothing quite like deciding not to wait for a partner but to enjoy being on your own instead.
Final Thoughts
Single persons in a group can be more creative and develop themselves more. Where a relationship is impossible, you can devote your time to other things, achievements you would like to accomplish, and other things you enjoy doing. You travel without considering other people’s preferences; you can discover new hobbies and do what you want in your free time. Being single makes you understand yourself more.
You’ll eventually learn what makes you happy and content without caring what others think or say. You may be single, but that doesn’t mean you’re alone. You have a great group of friends who value you for who you are, not for your relationship status. Try not to feel lonely because of the couples around you, and enjoy the process. Remember, you’re only single for a certain period in your life.
